Marriage is seen as sacred by many. Because of this misconception, they are prepared to put up with a great deal of pain in order to “rescue the relationship,” treating it more like a newborn in a burning building than the product of the efforts of two human beings (note the emphasis on “people”).
What You’re Going Through Is Not Necessary
There are those of us who have exhausted all other options to save our marriages and who refuse to continue living in misery; for them, divorce is medicine. Excommunication, legal expenditures, custody disputes, interruptions to one’s way of life, and, for some, eternal damnation are all possible negative outcomes that can result from taking a particularly potent dose of medicine (oh, dear).
The question remains, though, as to why anyone would actually go through with a divorce. it’s a terrible relationship. What exactly is so terrible about it? Any signs of physical abuse, such as a black eye, broken nose, or even strangling marks on the neck, should be enough to convince either partner that the “sacredness” of holy matrimony is no longer a thing for them.
But What About God?
It’s cognitive dissonance to think that a good God would have you stay in an abusive marriage rather than end it. Wanting to be healthy but not taking the necessary steps to achieve that goal is an example of cognitive dissonance. And while you desire the blissful marriage you deserve, you definitely don’t want to end up divorced.
In What Other Ways Could A Couple Legally Separate?
Your partner of many years has decided to stop working and live off your salary without asking your opinion on the matter. This has been done by both men and women who have worked in my office. Maybe your once-sober partner has developed an addiction to drugs or alcohol and now screams or laughs at you whenever you bring up the subject of them getting help.
Or maybe your once-sweet partner has developed a gambling problem and is dragging you and everyone they know down with them financially while laughing at your attempts to get them help. Your spouse, a thrill seeker, just can’t seem to get into the whole straight life of obeying the law (so boring), and now you’re hearing the dreaded “police knock” at all hours of the night.
You used to have a thriving sex life, but now you can’t even bring yourself to talk about it. Your once-normal spouse has converted to the beliefs of alternative religion and now defends its outlandish practices by saying they are done “in the name of the Lord.”
Marriage and other partnerships of a similar sort are not holy, and you have the right to declare, “Hey! I didn’t ask for this, but I deserve a life free from the threat of a financial collapse, religious fervor, and other forms of self-destructive drama. If you don’t want to endure serious distress for the rest of your life, you just need to take action, pay a reasonable sum to an attorney, and move on with your life. Choosing this path in life will be monumental and, in some ways, sacred.